It comes in three...

Things around the Tung homestead hasn’t been the smoothest lately. They say when it rains it pours... and lately it’s been raining cats and dogs.

First it was with my sister’s marriage. She’s been having some problems lately. Then it was her dog. Her 3 pound Yorkie got hit by a car while she was in New York visiting friends. As if she doesn’t have enough to deal with right now with her marriage on the rocks. then her baby gets hit by a car under her roommate’s watch..actually I’m just gonna say it. She’s getting divorced. 25 and getting a divorce, but according to her, it’s a good thing so I will support her decision and be a good sister.

Here comes the last thing..we found out a few weeks ago that my Aunt Jia has about a year or two left to live. It was about a year ago we found out she had stomach cancer. She went through chemo and was in remission for a while but I guess it’s back. She hasn’t been able to eat and she’s lost a lot of weight.

The horrible thing is that I really don’t know what’s going on. My family still treats me as if I was a kid and I wouldn’t understand. I also think that my aunt is trying to protect the family from getting hurt. I mean my grandparent’s still don’t know the whole truth. I honestly think she’s not telling us all the info about her sickness which kills me because she’s being so brave while she’s the one who’s sick. We’re supposed to be there for her and try to comfort her and here she is trying so hard to protect the family.

My older aunt is flying in from Hong Kong the first week of September to visit my younger aunt. I don’t want to be a pessimist or anything but I honestly think this can only lead to bad things. I know everyone wants to spend as much time with my aunt especially if the doctor’s say she has a year or two left. One year versus two is kind of a big difference.

I’ve never experienced a death before so close in the family. My parent’s have always found a way to protect us kids somehow. Even now at 26 they still hide things from us that they think will hurt us. I find it really annoying at times. It might not be the right way but it’s the Asian way.

I’ve been kinda depressed lately about the whole situation. I’ve been holding most of my feelings in and I don’t feel I can really talk to anyone about what’s been going on with my aunt. Plus I get too emotional when I think about the whole situation and the tears start to flow like crazy. And to think I used to have a tough side back in the day if anyone can believe that. Ok I’m gonna leave it at that. If any of you know my aunt please send positive thoughts her way.